I’ve decided to write a post about indecision because it’s come up a few times in my coaching sessions recently and I think it’s an issue that affects many of us. We can become stuck in indecision, seemingly confused and unable to move forward. We can get caught up in the belief that there is a ‘right’ and a ‘wrong’ decision; which only adds to the worry, pressure and/or anxiety we may experience.
The good news is that often there isn’t a ‘right’ and a ‘wrong’ decision, but instead a number of different options, all with their own pros and cons. Some will require more time and consideration, some may involve research or obtaining recommendations, but once we have all the necessary information to make a decision, we should get on and make one – and fully commit to it.
To clarify, I’m not advocating impulsive decision-making (well at least not for the significant decisions in life) but staying in the world of indecision is sometimes hiding the truth that we are fearful of taking action; we often use it as an excuse, an avoidance tactic. We can’t make a ‘bad’ decision if we don’t make any decision at all right? We can’t fail if we don’t try, surely? It can feel easier to wallow in uncertainty, to not make any big choices. It feels safe and secure… or does it?
The problem is two-fold:
- In-decision can feel repressive and stifling. Sometimes the worry and anxiety comes from the feeling of being in limbo, rather than from the choice itself
- By not making a decision you’re putting up a barrier preventing you from moving forward. You may be blocking your own success!
Making a decision can feel liberating so once you have all the information you need, make a choice. Or at least set yourself a deadline, a cut off point for when the decision must be made. Be courageous, take control and avoid this form of procrastination.